tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2615589477786951216.post8754141945542115101..comments2023-07-10T10:15:05.201+02:00Comments on Upon Awakening...: What's wrong with you?KarenOhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08430826693486690223noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2615589477786951216.post-38873155548172200832007-04-10T18:54:00.000+02:002007-04-10T18:54:00.000+02:00Hi, there....I also found you through Pamela Jeann...Hi, there....I also found you through Pamela Jeanne, and just wanted to tell you how very valuable your voice is in IF-blogworld. Although my husband and I are still dabbling in treatment options, we are already weary of them. I'm trying to prepare myself for a future that might be different than we had ever planned....... <BR/><BR/>I hope that blogging will help you find a new peace.deannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208971949811803163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2615589477786951216.post-54044539671825572552007-04-10T09:24:00.000+02:002007-04-10T09:24:00.000+02:00Hi, I got your site from Coming2terms and I after ...Hi, I got your site from Coming2terms and I after reading your post, I just had to comment. My life was rapidly unravelling and I wasn't sure why. After 4 yrs of TTC and 4 failed IVFs, we had to face the fact that we would never get pregnant or have our own children. There were plenty of tears after each negative result and even after deciding we would adopt, I assumed I was fine. I was not. <BR/><BR/>What I didn't realize that these sad events were not just disappointments, but trauma. Nobody died, but a dream did. It's not a small thing. Getting a new job, moving or even changing your hair colour is not going to make you feel better.<BR/><BR/>You don't have to think of yourself as a victim, but I do believe that you have to cut yourself some slack and realize that after all you went through, divorce and infertility do actually count as traumatic events. <BR/><BR/>And while we are busy drying our tears and keeping a stiff upper lip and gritting our teeth through social events where it seems like every other woman is either pregnant or a baby on the breast, we get sideswiped with pain that would cripple an elephant. <BR/><BR/>I have no idea if this post traumatic feeling ever goes away, but I do know that when I say I'm fine and deny what I'm feeling, I feel worse. <BR/><BR/>I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.Deathstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10012800256411878445noreply@blogger.com